This is a very difficult thing to write about. There are
landmines all around that could make me seem like a really bad person, but here
it goes.
What do you think about when you think of a black person? A preference
for certain foods? A certain way of talking or words used in speech? A certain
income level?
What do you think about when you think of a Hispanic person?
A preference for certain foods? A certain way of talking or words used in
speech? A certain income level?
Does the same apply to women vs. men? Certain attitudes?
Certain ways of doing things? More or less emotional? Stronger or weaker?
What if I had a family member, say father, mother or
sibling, who had been killed by a soldier? I would dare say that I could have
the idea that all soldiers were merely killing machines with no humanity and no
remorse for what they did. I dare to say my assumption would be wrong.
Applying the same thought processes to people of a different
race, it is very easy to stereotype someone based on the color of their skin.
Even white people can be stereotyped – no rhythm, egotistical, not as athletic,
etc.. It is the natural tendency of a person to try and understand new things
or people based upon what they already know – but is this racist?
In the purest sense of the word, by definition, this stereotyping
of people is not racist. Racist thoughts/actions imply some sense of
superiority of one race over another. Most often, stereotyped portrayals of
people do not carry with it any sense of one race being superior or inferior to
another race. Even so, it is a very easy line to cross and the boundaries
cannot always seem very clear, and to some people ANY stereotyping or
categorizing of a person base on their race is a form of racism.
As an example, if I assume that a particular person does not
have as much money as me based solely on the color of their skin, then I would
think I am really pushing the edge of that boundary if I have not indeed
crossed over the line. If I am honest with myself, I would have to admit that I
have crossed that line on occasion – not with any malicious intent or desire to
set myself as superior to another, but out of a natural tendency to get an
understanding about a person. I am reminded of movies that we have all seen
where the rich person will disguise themselves as an average or even a poor
person and ultimately discovers the truth about what people think of them as
well as what they misunderstand about people who are not rich. The important
thing to keep in mind is that each person is an individual with life
experiences that are uniquely their own and most likely they will have many
traits that differ from the stereotypes we want to place on them.
So when it comes to race, there are many people who would
state that ANY form of stereotyping, malicious or not, is a form of racism.
There are others who say you really have to know a person’s heart before you
can call them a racist. To be honest, I probably lie somewhere in between the
two opinions. There are probably times when a person does enter into the realm
of racism, be it intentional or not, and there are probably times when someone
is accused of being racist when they are actually not, but may be riding really
close to that line.
It seems many in society today are very quick to call
someone a racist. I have often anticipated this myself and have been ready with
my reply – how can I be racist when I have a black daughter? On the other hand,
I have seen many news reports that are disturbing because they show that racism
is very much alive and active, whether or not we want to admit it.
As my daughter enters her senior year of high school, I am
concerned about racism that will be applied to her simply based on the color of
her skin. I am concerned about jobs that she could be passed over, how people
will treat her if they don’t know she has a white father (or because she does) and
other stereotypes that could be applied to her outside of the “safety” of my
home. I am concerned about her personal safety as well. Could she be attacked
by a group of people solely based on the color of her skin? Unfortunately the
answer is yes.
So are there any answers to the problem of racism vs
stereotyping? I think there is not a clear, one sentence answer that can be
given, but there are some things to do that may help.
· Recognize stereotyping or racism within
yourself. Be honest and admit it (to yourself) when you are attempting to
categorize someone based on their skin color, religion, sexual orientation,
gender, country they are from, etc..
·
Attempt to push past the social or personal stereotypes.
Get to know a person and their situation in life without judging them and
without pushing your own experiences on them. Appreciate what they have been
through and how those experiences make them valuable.
·
Be open to people who are different from you.
There are many great experiences to be gained and different perspectives on
life to be learned. Too often we tend to stick with people we are most like,
but when we take the chance to get to know someone who is different from
ourselves, then we grow as well.
· Be vigilant to stop true racism. Racism comes in
many forms and any way in which is portrayed is wrong. When someone is accused
of being racist, I am not so quick to judge, but I want to examine – as much as
is possible – their full opinions and history before making this accusation. Even
so, when it is clearly racism, then work to stop it.
·
Realize that people make mistakes. It is true.
Most of us at some time or another have ventured into the waters of racism –
either intentionally or not. When someone does and recognizes it, be willing to
forgive them and applaud them for making a change away from that.
·
Eliminate inflammatory words and thoughts from
yourself. Stop telling jokes based on race or other stereotypes. Change your
thoughts when you realize you have them. Realize that not only black people
like fried chicken – I like fried chicken too!!
·
Find commonality. Instead of distinguishing how
a person is different from you, find the ways in which are similar. Food
interests, religious interests, music, recreational interests, etc.. I have a
black friend who I play cards with on a weekly basis. We have bonded over the
fact that we have the same last name and although there is no likelihood at all
that we are related to each other, we each call the other our brother because
of our common last name.
I am sure there are more ways to combat racism and
stereotyping. Just spend some time thinking about it and you can come up with
more.
I wonder what other people think about racism or stereotyping. You are invited play in my playground but leaving a comment on your thoughts. Leave a comment, even if it is an opposing opinion, but play nice.
I wonder what other people think about racism or stereotyping. You are invited play in my playground but leaving a comment on your thoughts. Leave a comment, even if it is an opposing opinion, but play nice.